A 7 Step Plan to Getting Re-Engaged

Are you ready to make the most out of 2011?

Have you noticed that suddenly everyone “wakes up” after Labor Day?  I call it the “Back to School” mode. During the summer months, and especially in August, most people are in “Vacation Mode”, so when September hits, everyone realizes we only have four months left of this year and we better get moving.

Are you ready to re-engage and get the most out of this year?  The first eight months are gone and the economy is not going to change in the next four months, so what are you going to do to complete the year on a positive note?

Here are seven steps to help you get started. Continue reading »

To Win the Game, You Need a Coach!

Every great performer, professional athlete, business legend or performing superstar is surrounded by coaches and advisors.  Do you know why? Because they know the key to their success is by having a coach. It’s been proven and it would be foolish to think they could make it without one.

  • Do you have someone in your life who is always in your corner?
  • Do you have someone who helps you achieve your best in your career and your personal life?
  • Do you have someone who helps you to develop skills for effective decision-making?
  • Do you have someone who in your life who always tells you the truth?

A coach is purposefully-driven and focused on your success. Your coach honors and celebrates your wins in life and helps you to develop your best tools to learn from failures, successes, and life experiences.

Your Coach = Your Success Partner!

Click here to read my latest article in Jersey Shore Woman Newspaper on what to look for and expect in a coaching relationship.

The podcast below is from my Blog Talk Radio Show, 30 Minute Business Dig, with co-host Deborah Frey. This 30 minute episode explores reasons people hire coaches, what is expected in the coaching relationship, what results you can expect from using a coach, and how to choose a coach.

Are You a Pro at Procrastination?

Procrastination. We all do it to some extent, but did you know that the degree to which you procrastinate can keep you from success? When coaching my clients on time management issues, undoubtedly procrastination comes up as one of the stumbling blocks to getting things done. Do you make any of these statements?

I work best under pressure.

I’m much more creative when I do things at the last minute.

I have plenty of time. My deadline is not until tomorrow.

So why do we do it? People procrastinate for different reasons. Do any of these ring true for you?

  • Poor time management, often associated with a distorted sense of the time available
  • An inability to prioritize tasks
  • “Biting off more than you can chew” – creating an overload of tasks at a specific time
  • Not knowing what is required to do the task
  • Feeling overwhelmed by the task(s)
  • Fear of failure or not meeting your own standards
  • Fear of success and its possible consequences
  • Perfectionism, having unrealistic standards
  • Boredom – task is not interesting or not important to you
  • Avoidance of things which are disliked or difficult.

How to Overcome Procrastination

Procrastination is a habit and to overcome procrastination you need to create new habits. As you know, habits are hard to break. Before you can create new habits, you need to take an honest assessment of how you manage your time; identify the reason(s) you’re procrastinating (see list above); and examine the typical procrastination excuses that you use. Once you have a clearer understanding of your behavior patterns, you’ll be able to develop new behaviors that are related to your specific issues.

A misconception is that this is a one size fits all solution. Only you can discover what obstacles are in your way so that you can overcome them. Your reasons for procrastinating are personal to you, and once you bring them to your awareness level and create a plan of action to make changes, you will see results that will work for you.

Tips to Create New Habits

  • Think about the consequences (identify the negative results of not completing the task).
  • Get organized. Make a “to do” list of what needs to get done.
  • Schedule your activities that need to get done when you are at your peak productivity time. So, if you are an early bird or a night owl, take this into consideration.
  • Don’t over schedule yourself. Be realistic in what you can get done.
  • Break large tasks into smaller, more manageable projects.
  • Visualize yourself completing the task successfully and how you will feel at that time.
  • Research what you don’t know.
  • Delegate it to someone who can help you (get some coaching).
  • Motivate yourself with a reward for completing the task (make it exciting — something you wouldn’t ordinarily give yourself).
  • Dwell on your strengths on tasks you have accomplished.
  • Stop trying to be perfect. Are your standards too high? It’s better to produce something rather than nothing!
  • Make a decision. Sometimes it is better to risk the possibility of making a mistake than to not make the decision at all.
  • Minimize distractions. Turn off the email notification sound on your computer; silence your phone; or hang a Do Not Disturb sign on your door.
  • Implement the “Do it now!” mantra. Whenever you catch yourself thinking, “I can do this later,” think “DO IT NOW!” Every time you follow through and do it now you are reinforcing the positive habit of action.

Success = Action

Successful people take action. They manage their time by planning for the future and setting goals and action plans. Habits of procrastination will keep you from taking action and acquiring the success you deserve in your life.

The challenge is to consistently practice new behaviors and overcome self defeating habits that keep you from your goals. There is no magic wand. Increasing your awareness and having clear strategies to stay focused will show results.

If you have any stories or comments about dealing with or overcoming procrastination, please place a comment below or go to my Facebook Fan Page and post it there.

If the Heat’s Too Hot: 4 Steps to Dealing with Difficult Situations

How many times have you heard this phrase? As we deal with a sweltering heat wave in half of the country, headlines scream how hot it is, and if the heat’s too hot…tips on what you should do to stay cool.

So I thought about how that relates to business relationships and the times when things really can get you “hot under the collar.” Deadlines, irate customers, bully bosses, unreasonable clients all can contribute to making a situation one that can get the best of you. Here are four tips to help you stay “cool” when things heat up.

  1. Take a deep breath – yes, breathe, because under stress we stop taking in enough oxygen and forget to breathe deeply.
  2. Take a new perspective – it’s not all about you, so make sure you take the time to listen and understand all points of view. Ask yourself, “How important is it?”
  3. Communicate clearly – this may be the time to pick up the phone or meet face-to-face. Text and email messages (or Facebook or Twitter) do not help you take in all the informaton you may need since you don’t have the benefit of hearing someone’s tone, seeing their body language, or shaking their hand
  4. Get humble – our egos easily get in the way before we even know it. Take a moment to put someone else ahead of you. It will matter.

So, if the heat’s too hot…remember that life is too short to sweat the small stuff.

Podcast: Leaving Wall Street to Sort Things Out

Eva Abreu

Eva Abreu

Eva Abreu is a true entrepreneur who captures the pulse of her community, connects her colleagues using social media, and motivates her followers and clients to simplify their lives and literally by getting organized. Eva recently joined us on 30 Minute Business Dig to share her journey from leaving her corporate background on Wall Street to the founding of her organizing company, Sort Things Out; becoming a social media business columnist for the Gannett newspapers The Home News Tribune and Courier News, and Gannett web site www.mycentraljersey.com; publisher of www.NJsocialmedia.com; and founder and executive producer of Eva Abreu Productions LLC, which produces family-friendly community theater.

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